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Prepare for a boatload of posts dedicated to the power of positivity and taking hold of your life. I am thankful to have a wonderful and amazing mother who does a good job at not only driving me nuts but also motivating to be my best. I honestly believe she drives me so nuts. I think we tend to argue so much because we are so alike. She knows what she wants in life and works to do exactly that. With a momma like that, I am very blessed. If there is one thing my mother continuously tells me, it’s to “Claim what you want". She’s right. My mom has always told me you can design your life. I highly believe that because if that weren’t the case, I would not be where I am right now.
This idea should not only work in your life but also in what you want to find in a significant other. If you have no idea what you want or honestly deserve than you will settle for whatever comes. That's a fact.
Some girls like myself have a “list” or things that they must have in a guy they are seeing or dating or plan on marrying one day. My list isn’t like “he has to have green eyes!”. Like, sure they are nice and beautiful and my children will be gorgeous but that doesn’t make it or break it for me. That’s not what my list is for. My list comprises of traits, desires, and very few physical attributes of what I want in my significant other.
This isn’t to be superficial or picky. This determines who you want in your life. What you want in the person you plan on sharing your life with. Who you want to wake up to every morning. Because of that, everyone should know what they want in that person. They are not perfect and aren't going to be. Neither are you. But you have the ability and opportunity to pick who that person is or will be. This list serves as a guide: a guide to the amazing person waiting for you somewhere in this world.
Since I am nothing short of personal on my blog, I am going to share mine.
I wrote this after sobbing on the phone with my mom over another boy who broke my heart. I wrote this last summer and have not touched it since. I thought my mother was crazy but I listened since that’s all I could do as I sobbed and claimed I would never like another male again. Such a lie LOL.
I opened up my computer and just started writing in my notes section. As I wrote, I literally became excited just thinking about who the individual will end up being.
Looking back now, I am so thankful I did. My mom blatantly told me to write a list of all the things I want in this "man" that I see myself with in the future. Doing so, I would not only start seeing what I wanted but also somehow attract it.
What I Want in My Significant Other
I want him to be assertive, ambitious, super affectionate, caring, spiritual.
I want him to have a good head on his shoulders, goals, aspirations, and hobbies.
I want him to want to be his best.
I want him to be funny. A guy that can make me laugh on a bad day.
I want him to be athletic and active. I want him to care about his health and physical appearance.
I want him to strive for greatness. I want him to be ambitious and successful.
I want him to be smart and to teach me things I don’t know.
I want him to challenge me in a good way.
I want him to take me out of comfort zone and help me grow as a person.
I want him to be kind and caring.
I want him to be a family person and can hang out and be goofy and have a good time.
I want him to be outgoing and not afraid.
I want him to be protective and proud of me.
I want him to push me to be better and do better.
I want him to be passionate and sexy.
I want him to crave me in all ways.
I want him to surprise me and shock me in the best ways possible.
I want him to check up on me throughout my day and see how I’m doing.
I want him to know every aspect of me and learn to love me.
I want him to be loyal.
I want him to be always there when I need him.
I want him to be my best friend.
I want him to be a role model.
I want him to care about tradition and respect me.
I want him to want a beautiful marriage and a family.
I want him to be spontaneous and want to do extraordinary things.
I want him to travel and want to explore.
Let’s be clear. This does not make me a picky individual. If you think so, you need to change up your thinking and start claiming what you want in life. So, now I’m asking you: what do you want in your partner and significant other? Who do you want to be with, share your life with, or even marry?
I challenge you to make your list. Feel like sharing? Leave a comment or send away on Twitter, Insta, or email! I’d love to read them <3
Stay positive darlings.
xoxo,
I absolutely love this! I can't wait to make my own list, if it doesn't end in me having an anxiety attack about my future ;)
ReplyDeleteXo, Rachel | Seashells + Sparkles
Thank you <3
Deleteyou do it girl and hopefully it won't haha
xo, Kim