Prepare for the sappiness and for what goes on in a romantic's mind.
Just like Noah in The Notebook, you somehow have to keep your optimism alive.
I'm not saying write a letter for the next 365 days or build a house in hopes of getting Allie to come back to you but you get my drift.
About a year ago, I walked into my local Walmart with one intention: I am going to buy him a gift.
For whom you may ask? I don't know yet. Soon enough.
I don't remember where I heard this or learned about it but it intrigued me enough to actually do it.
Write love letters to your future husband.
I'm sorry, what? Why on earth would I do that? Are you delusional? That was my reaction.
So, I came out of Walmart with a journal. A gift for a someone with no exact date.
A gift ready to be filled with my thoughts to the man who miraculously decided to marry me.
Stubborn, feisty, ambitious, scared to open up, and sometimes mindless me.
Bless his soul.
So how do you keep the bad days away or keep your very shaky optimism when you're surrounded by constant negativity and thoughts about relationships?
I believe that one day I'll find the right guy for me and have a happy marriage.
I don't buy into the whole marriages all end in divorce, people always cheat, and so forth.
Realities like that do exist and happen everyday but focusing on that won't do you or I any good.
Why not believe that it will be great? That the right guy for you is out there?
He will cherish you and those horrible situations won't happen? If they do, you'll overcome it?
I can assure you it won't be perfect. Hell, it will be far from perfect. What in this world is?
I know it will be worth it. A love worth waiting and fighting for.
Well, I found a very personal way to do this: all by writing love letters. Channeling my inner Noah.
Call me crazy but it actually helps.
Yes, it may seem pretty strange considering I do not know who I am really writing to.
Not just yet.
Love letters to my future husband. Is that weird? I don't think so anymore.
Why not share your life before you start another with this person?
It's like having a best friend except you just haven't met them yet. Or maybe we have.
Timing is just a bit off. Or very.
If you have, they will definitely be at a different place when they read your deep, sincere 2AM thoughts or relationship struggles when you give them that journal.
If you haven't, they will get to learn who you were before they decided to spend the rest of their life with you.
So I thought I'd share some of my first entry and I sincerely suggest you give it a try.
Dear love,
I don't really know how to start this. Maybe I'll explain as to why first? I will write here when I need someone to talk to and share my thoughts with. These entries allow me to hope that we meet, hope that you are well, and coming sometime in the near future. I like to talk a lot, but I'm sure by the time you read this you'll already know that already. This is a present from me to you. One that I will give you before our wedding. The beginning of our what I know will be an amazing marriage. I hope that these entries will show you how much I care about you without even knowing who you are.
Until next time,
Your Kim
Don't ever lose that glimmer of hope or faith.
No matter how hard it gets, hold onto it.
We can't rush something we want to last forever.
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